Ethics Lessons from a Felon
Does it come as a big surprise that a convicted felon—indeed, a white collar criminal—would have developed some thoughts about the topic of ethics? Probably not. Since my conviction I have had plenty of time to ponder the idea of ethics, and I’ve conducted some research on my own about the subject. In doing so, I’ve received tons of advice. I must say, I wish I’d had this information at the beginning of my career. So here is my perspective – ethics from a felon.
Prisons are full of people who feel the justice system failed them. For some reason, they think they shouldn’t be there. I thought the same thing when I was in prison. The truth is, I and my fellow inmates did everything right to get ourselves into prison. We did precisely the wrong things, in precisely the right order, at precisely the wrong time. And there we were.
So I came to the conclusion that it wasn’t the system; it was me.
Beginning of Ethics from a Felon
In 1999 I began serving a 21 month federal prison sentence for conspiracy to commit mail and wire fraud. The crime involved four real estate investors submitting fraudulent documentation in order to get approved for residential home loans. Ultimately, these individuals took the equity out of the properties. Payments were never made on the loans, which caused the bank to foreclose on the property and incur thousands of dollars in losses.
I was their unsuspecting loan officer. After the first few transactions, I knew in my heart that some of the documents I was receiving were fakes. I didn’t say anything. I justified my silence and inaction by telling myself that verifying all documents was not my job. Were they fakes, I asked myself. Who was I to accuse someone of fraud if I wasn’t sure?
Over the course of about nine months, my justifications continued far past any rational point. The proverbial “gray area” became black. Toward the end of my involvement with these four individuals, I actually got involved in the purchase and sale of one of the properties, and participated in reaping the profits.
To make matters worse for myself, occasionally I would be given a couple hundred dollars under the table after I completed transactions. I told my self that these were “tips” for doing such a good job. My co-conspirators probably called it “hush money.” The FBI called it “criminal activity.” The United States government had the final word: “guilty.”
I have been told by some people that my crime was “fraud lite.” Some have said that I was unlucky; wrong place at the wrong time. Well, there is no such thing as fraud lite, and luck has nothing do with making the right decisions. I committed a crime. I am not proud of it and I’m certainly no hero for talking about it now.
However, there is an ethics lesson to be learned in all of this.
What is an Ethic
Dictionary.com defines ethics as “a set of principals of right conduct.” So, in order to have ethics, someone or something has to list out some principals of conduct that they deem to be “right.” This could be an employer, a trade association or our government. (In the case of our government, this list is called “the law.”)
Code of Ethics from a Felon
Employers get to decide this right conduct because, well, it’s ultimately their money and reputation at stake. Trade associations enact Codes of Ethics because they want to protect the image of their collective professions in the eyes of their current and potential client base. If you don’t agree with their principals of correct conduct, you are always free to start your own company or get out of the association.
For the most part the laws enacted by our government are designed to protect. Another way to look at it is: laws are the principals of correct conduct to follow when you’re not at work or part of a trade association.
Some principals of correct conduct overlap between different entities. Occasionally, people get confused about which entity’s rules or conduct they are to follow at what time. Things can really get confusing when we witness routine violations of the principals of correct conduct by fellow employees, association members, or citizens without immediate consequence.
If ethics is a set of principals of right conduct set forth by someone or something, how can general business ethics be taught? My understanding of being ethical was that you base your decision to do or not to do something on the feeling you get in your stomach. If that’s the case, how do you teach “stomach feeling” to someone?
Perhaps this logic is what led me astray, which is why I now have the perspective of ethics from a felon.
It was nice to finally understand that ethics is more than just a feeling and, that it is actually a set of principals of correct conduct set forth by someone or something. But this still didn’t solve my dilemma. In a business’ Code of Ethics, you can’t possibly account for every situation. For every principal of correct conduct; for every “right” way to act in one situation, there is another, different situation that follows, that may require yet a different “right” way to act.
Ethics Lesson From Kids
It reminded me of trying to teach my children not to say bad words. If I tried to give them a list of forbidden words, I felt that my list couldn’t possibly be thorough enough. The list would be too long and if I missed one, the lesson would be incomplete. I could always add new words to the list as they came up, but then that would be, “making up rules as I go along,” and I don’t want to teach them that lesson either.
If you don’t have kids, you’ve at least been a kid at one point, so I think you’ll be able to relate to one of my child-ethics lesson opportunities.
I was traveling in my car with my boys, four and seven years old. In the rear-view mirror I saw the older one punch the younger one on the arm. The young one howled, “aaahhhhhhhhooooooowwwww-auh!” I said, “Hey! Don’t punch your brother.” Immediately, the older one slapped his little brother in the arm. I said, “Don’t slap your brother either.” This was followed by a poke, which I followed with, “don’t poke.” A tickle – “Don’t tickle.” Then just a touch. Finally, I said, “keep your hands to yourself. Period!” The instigator was reduced to leveling a taunting glare at his younger sibling.
This could have gone on for hours. I finally gave them the ol’, “Don’t make me come back there!” (Which of course makes no sense since, I was driving.)
Aren’t there simply too many variable situations in the real world? Yes, but ethics isn’t about situations. It is about people and their characteristic behavior.
Ethics is Characteristic Behavior
Ethics doesn’t stand for “what to do.” It stands for how to behave. Finally understanding this made ethics less confusing for me. Not crystal clear, just less confusing. If you have ever had confusion about ethics, I hope this helps you too.
Theories From A Felon
Here are my theories.
For employers and leaders, it is imperative that you have a set of principals of right conduct. But to simply disseminate this information in printed format will not be enough. Ethics or behaviors, are best conveyed by example. Additionally, violations of ethical standards must be dealt with and not overlooked, or the unethical behavior will become business as usual.
If you are a member of an organization that adopts a code of ethics, read the printed words and follow the examples of the leadership. Pay attention to the feelings in your stomach. They may not tell you exactly what to do, but it may serve as a red flag. Remember, justifying questionable behavior is nothing more than being dishonest with yourself.
Lead your ethics model by example. Follow your ethics model with honesty.
Back in 1994, when my criminal involvement with the real estate investors was becoming clear to my boss, he taught me a valuable lesson. He was talking about my behavior, and its reflection on my character, when he said, “The appearance of impropriety is as bad as impropriety itself.” Not a bad golden rule.
Ethics may be a confusing area because it has to cover so many situations. But confusing does not mean impossible.
Take my experiences and words for what they’re worth, coming from a convicted felon — yes, ethics from a felon. Strive to be honest, diligent, and consistent. Society, your company, your family, and your children need you to stay out of prison.